Online Gamer Wife

Almost five years ago, I met my gamer husband. Our college education earned us full-time employment, cars, pets, computers, gaming systems, and an extravagant wedding. Reality set-in after the honeymoon: he is a gamer, and I can't keep up. While we dated, we started growing our long distance ties (on summer breaks) by playing World of Warcraft (WoW) together. When my social responsibilities during semesters interfered with playing the game, though, he would play with his buddies...which meant he always knew more and played better than me. Being a competitive person by nature, I recognized that I could not keep pace. So, I stopped trying. Just before our wedding almost four years later, my playing ceased entirely. [I find it hard to pursue goals that I am sure to fail at achieving, and that's how I felt about my goal of playing at the same level as my spouse.] The last year has been hard, because gaming is a lifestyle that takes hours, days, and weeks of dedication. Leaving that lifestyle, while my husband still lives it has taught us a good deal about gaming and marriage. We fight, grumble, and hide, but we have also learned how to forgive, love and cherish.